William Hammond, J.D.
Abuse of some kind is ambitious to deal with. Types of communicatory abuse can include the following:
- Does your darling one ignore your feelings?
- Is he disrespectful?
- Does he withhold approval, appreciation or affection?
- Does he walk absent without answering you?
- Does he criticize you, call you names or yell at you?
- Does he humiliate you in public or in the privacy of your home?
- Does he tell you that you are too sensitive?
- Does he destroy furniture or punch holes in the walls?
These are some of the signs, but there are galore more that may be observed. Abuse is difficult to deal with if the abuser has Alzheimer’s disease since the abuser can’t really control it.
If a person with Alzheimer’s becomes verbally abusive, it may be because he is suffering from depression or aggressive behavior caused by the disease. In this case you might want to involve your doctor and let him know the situation. He may be competent to prescribe an anti-depressive medication or simply change the current medication. You may want to take a break from your darling one, as sometimes caring all the time for the same person can be exhausting. Or you can try to place your loved one in an adult day care, or hire some professional help. Make sure that substitute caregivers are knowledgeable about Alzheimer’s disease and know how to handle patients with dementia.
One way to deal with the situation before it becomes a big problem is to try humor. You cannot control how your darling one is temporary but you can decrease the feelings of frustration by controlling how you respond. Try to validate your darling one’s feelings; it will definitely help him. Many times, people with Alzheimer’s are so unsuccessful that they act it out finished verbal abuse and aggression. Put yourself in his place. It is precise frustrating!
The most important thing you have to remember is not to talk “down” to your darling one because he is still a person with an entire life history of success and independence. If you see that what you are difficult to do or say to him is not working, just let it go for a while, step down of the room and come rearmost later. Let your loved one composed down and relax. You may want to try music. Studies have shown that Alzheimer’s patients often find music relaxing.
Finally, if you still feel overwhelmed, join a support group that specifically deals with verbal abuse and learn how to cope with it. Many times opposite people in the group will have experienced the unvarying ordeal with their loved ones. Group members may be able to counsel you on how they coped or dealt with this kind of behavior.
This group will also help you to deal with your emotions and frustrations. They will tell you how to control them, and once you are competent to deal with your own feelings, then you will be more hard-hitting coping with your loved one’s behavior.
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